Hope you are well I just wanted to say a huge thank you to you for the wonderful service you gave for our mum. You got everything just right and everyone I have spoken to has commented how nice the service was and what a lovely person you were. Also I would like to thank you for having faith in me that I would be able to speak at the funeral as that has also been commented how nice that came over.
Thank you again for all of your encouragement and support at this painful time.
Peter and David
WITH KIND PERMISSION
I wanted to write to you, firstly to thank you for the beautiful service you gave for my mother and secondly, to tell you that Stuart was very grateful to you for arranging the webcast, which allowed him to be a part the day all the way from Ottawa - the wonders of modern technology hey! We're very grateful to you for all that you have done for us.
Just to say thank you very much for the lovely service you took for Christina this afternoon, it was perfect, you did her proud! Best wishes and a merry and peaceful Christmas.
Roy and Glenys and family
Wanted to drop you a line to say thank you. The service was perfect. Many people afterwards asked how you knew dad. They were lost for words when I told them that you had never met him - in life any how.
Thanks again Steve and well done.
I want to thank you so much for all that you have done for me and my family over the past few weeks. You have been so supportive Steve. You were a complete stranger when you walked into my house and now I feel like you're a family friend. I don't know how you find the time and the strength to do what you do. Thank you for your compassion and the beautiful service for mum. I could tell you had really listened to us and you had picked up on things, I had no idea you knew. You have a very special gift Steve. I am so pleased you were recommended to us...
June, Phil, Paul and Bridge. XXXX
With the kind permission of Margaret
I felt I must to write to you.
My family were at odds at what to do. Our grief was so unexpected. The funeral home helped us deal with the arrangements in a way that was better than we ever expected, but we were simply at a loss. My brothers and I, had little incline as to what to do regarding the service... you helped ease our anxieties, and I am personally very thankful for that.
The ambience you created at the funeral was peaceful and eloquent. I knew as soon as I stepped out of the car that is was going to be something extraordinary. I could tell. Every person commented on it afterwards and I do mean everyone. You have a special gift. We are so much more at peace with ourselves and the situation we find ourselves in and I believe that is all down to you....
....mum was in every sense, as you say, 'a woman who filled spaces.' I'd never thought of her in that way before, but you are right. Her passing has left a huge space in all of our lives and we shall never forget her. I feel comforted knowing that we all said our goodbyes in such a meaningful way. Thank you.
I just want to thank you so much for what you did for us as a family yesterday. I am lost for words. It was perfect. Everything was done so well. **** would have loved it. The music, the poetry, the photographs. Very beautifully executed. We were all very happy with what you did for us. Thank you for stopping by afterwards too.
I also want to thank Dan, the Funeral Director. Everything was organised with such precision and grace.
Thank you to both of you.
Just a quick note to thank you again for mum's service. It was lovely. You've been so kind. Thanks for your patience. Much appreciated.
I have no problem recommending Steve. He's a great bloke. Easy to get on with. Goes the extra mile. Really gets to know you. Organises everything meticulously. Absolutely brilliant on the day. Can’t fault him at all. He gets a ten from Len.
Len and family
On behalf of the family, I’d like to thank you for the excellent job yesterday. You really got the eulogy spot on. My Dad said the day could not have gone better and you played a big part in this.
In the nicest possible way, I hope I don’t have to meet you again soon! However, you did a great job on a very difficult today for us. It was much appreciated by all.
[NAME], [NAME], and myself, wish to thank you once again for your support and compassion and for the really lovely service you gave for [NAME]. We were amazed how well you got to know him in such a short space of time. Your attention to detail is most impressive, as was your demeanor. You speak so well and captured [NAMES's] personality perfectly.
Everything went very well indeed on the day. We are very grateful to you and as a family, we shall be sure to use you again.
Thanks for meeting up with us last night. The Borehole is a charming little place, thank you for introducing us to it and the log burner was most welcome. We immediately warmed to you (forgive the pun). Hahaha. It did get rather warm after a while, didn't it?
It was clear to both of us that you were the right person to 'preside over our vows and commitment to one another,' was how you put it I think. You have such an eloquent way with words.
We loved your ideas and we liked how you listened to ours and took hold of them...
Look forward to meeting you again after Christmas.
Mac & Maggie
I can't recommend you high enough, the professionalism and compassion that you showed with my father's funeral service is second to none.
You took the time to get to know him and to "Feel him in your bones", You did him proud, the service was well received and the slideshow you created is a fitting commemorative piece.
I am certain to be using your services again.
Thanks ever such a lot for the lovely funeral you took for my mom. She would have loved it. It was spot on. Everyone said how nice it was that you took the trouble to join us after the service at my mom's house.
You've been brilliant, thanks Steve
I wanted to thank you for the way that you have stood alongside us as a community during the tragic loss of our friend. Your compassion and emotional power to withstand the adversity that arose was most impressive. As a result you were able to create a moving and emotive tribute to him, within what must have been very difficult circumstances for you. You are a true human being and an asset to your profession. You somehow found the right words to say and expressed them with great sensitivity and creativity.
Thank you Steve.
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Five stars is an easy rating to give Steve. I work in the funeral industry, and we only have one chance to get it right, so recommending someone to conduct a funeral ceremony is something that needs careful consideration. It is refreshing to see his focus on the client and their specific needs, to make everything flow with ease. All the clients that I have recommended Steve to, have sung his praises and more. I am delight to be associated with Steve and his business.
I just wanted to drop you a line to thank you for the service yesterday. I have to say that it was the most beautiful funeral service I have ever attended and trust me I have been to many. Everyone I spoke to at the funeral commented on it. I also wanted to thank you for your care and consideration. It was most appreciated.
Thank you for everything. Our service was incredible. We knew we could trust you to deliver, and you did and more. We've just arrived in California. So excited! It's just a pity the weather let us down on the day - but you certainly did not. A stunning ceremony to say the least. We'll never forget it. We're so grateful. Mmwa! XX
Maud & Dave
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"Well Steve, you certainly did [name] proud. That was the most beautiful funeral service I have ever attended. You are a lovely speaker. When you told me that you would get to know [name], I had no idea to what extent. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. [Name] would have been over the moon, I know that he would, and that bring me great comfort..."
[name] and family
I just wanted to email you. 1, to thank you for the brilliant service yesterday. 2. to tell you that it went so much better than I expected. Not in the slightest morbid. Just as you said - a great celebration of his life.
Just wanted to thank you for a brilliant evening. Cath and I really enjoyed talking things over with you. We were both a little daunted by the whole thing but you brushed all that fear aside. What a great bloke. Glad we found you.
Can't wait for our next meet up.
Greg & Cath :-)
I use the word “Ceremony" as opposed to "Service," because for me "Ceremony" implies a dynamic. Whereas a "Service" implies ritual; somthing stoic and traditional. You see, "Ceremony" is living, integrative and celebratory. Ritual is not.
I do not consider myself a ritualist at all, that is despite having worked with it quite successfully during my years within the Anglican Church. Nowadays, I am a Celebrant; someone who enters into the spirit of celebrating life's unique turning points. My Celebrancy is therefore unconventional by definition. It is always unique - always evolving. There is absolutely nothing prescriptive about it at all. Of course, there is always structure, but that is determined by the aspirations of my client, not some preconceived idea of what it should be like.
I’ve also noticed how the word "Ceremony" feels safer and more expansive when describing what I do. People expect a "Service" to follow a set form; specific words are used; it follows a set format - they expect it to be liturgical. "Ceremony" focusses on the celebration and the people involved. It is a great deal more free-flowing.
In the book Sacred Ceremony by Steven Farmer, he highlights a distinction between Ritual and Ceremony, in that the two are based on whether or not they chatacteristically change. Farmer suggests that Ritual is something that is fundementally unchanging–it is always done the same way. Whereas, Ceremony is very much more alive and so adapts to the unique circumstances it faces. I agree.
Holding Dear therefore, will always be a space for change. A place of creativity and freedom. A place for embracing your uniqueness as an individual. It will always be dynamically focussed on helping you underline those all-important transitional moments in life that need to be shared and celebrated. What is more, it will always be a place of safety.
If you are looking for something that is beyond ritual; that is much more far-reaching and so much more about you, then I would encourage you to look not to an institution, but to Celebrancy. Celebrants will help you celebrate your life in exactly the way you wish to. No rite. No set format. No preconceived ideas. Always uniquely about you and so led by your singularity.
Celebrant - the clue is in the title.