What a special, almost joyous occasion. It made me so happy.
Thank you Steve.
May I give you a heart felt thank you for the wonderful part you played in my mum's service. Your kind and sensitive words were the glue that made the service a fitting tribute for my mum. You said it would be good and it was. So many people there today said how marvelous it was which was down to you.
Thank you for easing our loss in such a lovely way.
Thank you so much for your work on ours and Mum's behalf and for the sentiments you expressed to the family today. The whole service was a beautiful tribute to Mum and everyone seemed to enjoy it.
Thank you also for your encouragement about not hurrying - it really relaxed me.
Thank you once again.
I’m writing to say a massive thank you for the wonderful service you did yesterday for XXXX, my Nanna.
The whole family thought it was wonderful. You listened to what we’d said about her and the words you used to talk about her life were so thoughtful.
You really captured her essence and everything that was so special about her.
We were all so moved and touched, thank you. You made a sad day a celebration.
YOU WERE NOT A STRANGER
I simply had to send you a message of thanks after what was such a beautiful service yesterday for my mum.
You kept us really involved throughout and I appreciated that so much. Your method of getting to know us made the whole thing very special and very much about Mum. More importantly, it got everyone involved, rather than just the chosen few. Very clever!
You were not a stranger to us on the day or to mum - and I can't express enough how much that meant to us.
Good morning Steve,
Thank you once again for a beautiful service. You did Lilian proud...
HAPPY & POSITIVE
Just wanted to thank you for your support, professionalism, and all-round comforting nature on the day of Mum’s funeral. Thank you very much - you made the day feel so positive and your words and delivery was impeccable. We had loads of positive feedback.
Every time I think of the day, I feel happy and positive which is helping me cope with Mum’s passing.
PS: You have inspired me to start writing some tunes again as a lasting legacy to my folks :-) I’ll send you them when finished!!
ELOQUENT & COMPASSIONATE
...you are nothing short of a true professional. I trusted you very early on in our conversation when you first visited us.
The service was excellent. You spoke eloquently and with great compassion. I have a feeling we shall be seeing you again.
Thank you very much indeed!
A LOVELY SERVICE
Just a quick email to thank you for the lovely service that you created for us, for my father's funeral
So thank you.
GOT IT RIGHT
All went well after the service and I had lots of lovely comments about the service, people felt that you had ‘got it right’ in terms of your reflections of Mum.
Thank you very much for your hard work in getting everything arranged. It was a really fitting tribute to her and has definitely helped me to start to move on.
Good Morning Steve,
We just wish to thank you for helping us to celebrate Bill's life. I was dreading Monday at the funeral, you turned it into something positive and wonderful and gave us a focus for our grief which in turn helps us to look to the future with love and the fondest of memories.
So many people commented on the lovely service and how it was a true remembrance of Bill
Thank you again
Thank you so much for making mum’s funeral on Tuesday such a lovely tribute to her long life. All of the family and friends who attended spoke highly of the sympathetic and compassionate way you handled the service and your own kind words about her.
With all our best wishes
John, Malcolm and Carol
...A big thank you for your work last weekend. I have received many comments saying how wonderful and touching the ceremonial side of the event was. I think together we sent Colin off in a fashion he deserved. THANKS!
I am so very grateful to you for the funeral service you led and organised for Phil. It was so personal. Everyone commented on how beautiful it was and on how nice it was of you to join us afterwards for a chat about him at the County Hotel. My cousin was amazed at how much you knew about him and assumed you were a family friend. When I told him who you were, he couldn't believe it!
The video you created for us about his life was so moving. I'd never seen anything like it at a funeral before. Can I have a copy of it? A lot of people would like to watch it again.
I am so grateful to ****** for introducing us to you.
Thank you again.
My brother and I would like to convey our heartfelt thanks to you for your outstanding service from beginning to end. You put us all at ease when you visited us at mum's. You organised everything so impeccably well, and the funeral service was without doubt, a truly memorable occasion. Everyone commented on how much they actually enjoyed it!
My brother and I feel very much at peace. We feel like we've given mum a great send off and that my friend is all down to you. You are very good at what you do. I wished we'd have known you when we organised dad's funeral.
Steve, please do keep in touch, we've all enjoyed getting to know you and we shall be sure to recommend you to all of our friends.
Leo and Mac and family
I first met Steve Shaw after being invited to arrange and lead his mother’s funeral ceremony. She had suffered Dementia for several years.
Not too long into our conversation about her, it became clear to me that Steve had been mourning the loss of his mother for quite some time. Firstly, he was grieving because she was no longer a physical presence in his life. But there was the gradual loss of his mother that he had experienced for quite some time before she died, because of her Dementia. It became clear that the ceremony had to address both the loss of his mother in the physical sense and the loss of his mother he had experienced during her illness.
“I feel like I’d forgotten the person that she was,” commented Steve.
During her illness, Steve and his father Frank, had to deal with the very difficult concept of losing the person they loved and admired, gradually and over a period. They looked on helplessly, as she changed from being an astute and creative woman, into someone who was largely apathetic and uninterested. She was so understanding and compassionate throughout life, but then lost all degree of empathy and ability to recall and remember or fully understand her environment. It was a heart-breaking experience.
Using imagery and by celebrating the person she was for much of her life and refusing to define her by her illness, the ceremony helped Steve remember the mother he loved and cherished as a child and through most of his adulthood.
“I regained the memory of my mother whom I’d lost,” he remarked.
Steve is a local potter, musician and artist. He uses his art to communicate personal ideas and feelings. Naturally, Steve wished to celebrate the prospect of ‘getting his mum back,’ and decided to communicate his own sense of loss and rejoicing, which inspired a stunning collection of ink drawings called, ‘Life is a Long Song.’ They are dedicated to the memory of his mother. They really are something quite special.
The drawings will be on display at CO-OP Funeralcare in Stone, Staffordshire. They will be unveiled on Saturday 30th March as a way of marking Mothering Sunday. The inks will be available for all to see for a limited period of time after that too.
A glass of bubbly and a small gift for mum awaits you at the unveiling.
Thank you so much for making Monday's get together go so smoothly. I think everyone there felt it was a unique experience and hopefully one which they will look back on with pleasure as well as sadness. Many people said they were sure Doug would have enjoyed it and I agree with them! He is now in the place he wanted to be and I feel quite happy knowing this. Living in our home makes me feel that he is still with me, and will always be around so I am content.