As we fast approach the month of August, I look back on what has been a very colourful July in terms of the kind of people I have served and some of the businesses I’ve rubbed shoulders with. The hot weather has noticeably impacted on people’s level of tolerance and patience, understandably. As professional Celebrants, who deal with people at particularly stressful times, it is important that we keep our cool.
An FD has recently likened me to a gliding swan on a pond. I was a little perplexed by the comment initially, but he explained that on the surface of the pond a swan quietly and gracefully glides along, whilst beneath the surface the swan paddles frantically. Consequently, I took his analogy as a compliment.
I suppose he has a point. I do take a lot of the systematic elements of my work for granted – I’ve been doing this for so long. I focus my attention on serving the needs of my client. Alongside this, I also value my formation and development as a Celebrant and Therapist too.
It has been a good exercise for me to give some time to looking at what I systematically do in more detail and to look at what people do around me to get to their end-point.
There is a great deal more involved in organising a ceremony than we are more often given credit for.
And remember, this can happen many times over during the week.
Yet, people within and around our work sometimes seem to value only what they see - the end-product. This is a shame. Valuing each other and our roles, helps to make our industry more attractive. People will notice it. We will value each other more, if we take the time and the trouble to understand what we all do. I recommend some time out, just to look at what people around us do. I have to say for me, it proved to be a very prevalent and rewarding exercise.
I now see the world ever so slightly differently.