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An Experienced Grief Specialist & Funeral Celebrant
In 2003 my wife lost her daughter Katie to Glioblastoma, an aggressive type of cancer that occurs in the brain or spinal cord. She was six years old. It was an incredibly cruel end to a long two-year battle with the disease. We have been gripped by our loss ever since – and have resolved to devote the rest of our lives to helping people who experience loss and grief in whatever circumstances. We're both fully qualified Counsellors and Grief Specialists.
Since Katie's death, we have adopted the symbolism of the Dragonfly as a way of reminding ourselves of how special and unique she was. It has since become representative of my work as a Grief Specialist and Funeral Celebrant. Why the Dragonfly? At her funeral, we listened to a short story by Doris Stickney called, Waterbugs & Dragonflies, and I suppose it took on a life of its own from there:
Down below the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of water bugs. They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun. For many months they were swamped, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond. They noticed that now and again, one of their colony seemed to lose interest. Clinging to the stem of a pond lily it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more.
"Look!" said one of the water bugs to another. "One of our colony is climbing up the lily stalk. Where do you think she is going?" Up, up, up it slowly went - even as they watched, the water bug disappeared. Its friends waited and waited, but it didn't return.
"That's funny!" said one water bug to another.
"Wasn't she happy here?" asked a second...
"Where do you suppose she went?" wondered a third.
No one had an answer; they were greatly puzzled. Finally, one of the water bugs, a leader in the colony, gathered its friends together. "I have an idea. The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where he or she went and why."
"We promise", they said solemnly.
One spring day, not long after, the same water bug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk. Up, up, up, he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broken through the surface of the water and fallen onto the broad, green lily pad above.
When he awoke, he looked about with surprise. He couldn't believe what he saw. A startling change had come to his old body. His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail. Even as he struggled, he felt an impulse to move his wings.
The warmth of the sun soon dried the moisture from the new body. He moved his wings again and suddenly found himself up above the water. He had become a dragonfly!!
Swooping and dipping in great curves, he flew through the air. He felt exhilarated in the new atmosphere. By and by the new Dragonfly lighted happily on a lily pad to rest. Then it was that he chanced to look below to the bottom of the pond. Why, he was right above his old friends, the water bugs! There they were scurrying around, just as he had been doing some time before.
The Dragonfly remembered the promise: "The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where he or she went and why." Without thinking, the Dragonfly darted down. Suddenly he hit the surface of the water and bounced away. Now that he was a dragonfly, he could no longer go into the water.
"I can't return!" he said in dismay. "At least, I tried. But I can't keep my promise. Even if I could go back, not one of the water bugs would know me in my new body. I guess I'll have to wait until they become dragonflies too. Then they'll understand what has happened to me, and where I went."
And the Dragonfly winged off happily into its wonderful new world of sun and air...
And so, the Dragonfly for us represents going beyond what is on the surface and looking into the more profound implications of life. It is a symbol of new beginnings and so, represents hope, change, and love.